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Join the discussion and meet other Mumsnetters on our free online chat forum. Over Christmas, relationships mumsnet, I went to a party and got talking to a girl in relationships mumsnet early 20s. I asked if her partner was there, and she replied "I don't do relationships.

But I just don't think it's for me. I'm I committed 3 years of my life to my first relationship where he turned mentally and physically abusive. We broke up in and I still feel the effects of his bullying to this day. I thought we were building a family and a life together but again he turned mentally abusive over the last couple of years and has left me broken.

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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. But basics are when we first got together he lied and said he was divorced , he was only separated. The relationship with his now ex wife , which took 5 years after being together was odd at best. He would literally jump through hoops for her. We got back together and everything was lovely. Effort made on his and my part , divorce proceedings started , drinking stopped , time made for each other etc. Always too busy. And the drinking starting up again. I was absolutely gutted to say the least - hotel rooms had been booked by friends and relatives , clothes had been bought , everything arranged.

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines Hide shortcut buttons, relationships mumsnet. We sat down and had a talk, but it became clear she was adamant that I was completely in the relationships mumsnet for asking her that question - she said I degraded and humiliated her. Customise Getting started FAQ's.

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. Advise please. Im engaged but currently do not live with my OH but I go down every weekend or he comes up to me, we are supposed to live together again when his house is finished. I went through his messages on his phone and found he's being texting various women that he has befriended on Facebook or met in the pub and then befriended. He texts things like "really nice to meet you and spend time with you last night" and "Good morning x" and "really missed you in the pub last night" and then one with lips kissing. He says I'm reading stuff into it that isn't there, that i'm winding myself up, that i don't trust him.

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. Bit of a philosophical question I know! But me and my brother are both worried that we don't have very good role models as parents and want to be sure we get the right balance between being there for our children and not over-involved in a bad way I'm interested to know because I read somewhere that most mothers let their children cut free in a healthy way during their adolescence whereas in dysfunctional familes the attachment carries on into adulthood it's as if you are not allowed to be independent, being controlled in subtle ways by your parents and siblings carries on, family dynamics continue to be restricting and stressful. I want to be sure I "let go" of my boys at the right time if that's what I'm meant to do - or do mums always wield huge amounts of power and influence over their children?

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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. Initially as a friend but then things developed into a relationship. Everything has been pretty good up until about months ago when we had a bit of a fall out on holiday. After a tricky few days with some difficult interactions - arguments and such like, I decided to get us some tickets to a concert so we could try and lift out of this funk we have been in. At this point it is worth pointing out that our dynamics that causes issues is usually about if I say something or react a certain way almost always said or done without any harm or malice intended , she in turns reacts to that in a way that suggests my behaviour is wrong, unkind, unthoughtful, not loving, etc. Anyway, we had one of those situations where she reacted to something I did and we drove almost the whole way without speaking. However, near the venue as we drove through the city, something came over me - an insecurity - not sure why, but I felt an urge to ask her if she was texting other guys anything flirtatious or sexual in nature. Well, this is where things took a turn.

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Advanced search Saved Active Unanswered threads. It did not end well! Relationships 8 replies. You're welcome. Customise Getting started FAQ's. Can you find work asap? The study found that contributors to Mumsnet were unafraid to name such controlling behaviour and identify it as a form of domestic abuse. Join Mumsnet Log In. I wouldn't be happy if my partner was behaving in this way and he wouldn't be happy if I was either. LittleAsNan , you need to start your own thread to get replies. There was definitely a sense of society saying "you will regret this".

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. Hi everyone Just that really- what things have worked for you, whether they were bits of advice that you have gathered over the years or learnt and lived experiences that you believe has helped you in your relationships and navigating your relationships?

I think what you are hearing is anger on your behalf. Because that's what it is. Instead - ask yourself where your compassion for yourself has gone? Watch thread Flip. Relationships Follow topic. Being single is hugely underrated. Is there anyone out there who has been long term single and happy this way? You can work out later what you DO want from any future relationships, and if you then meet someone great then excellent, if not you'll have built a life that works without anyone else. I don't know if it's more common, I guess there'll be stats? I have no one to talk to hence my putting it on here. Of course you leave. OP posts: See all. Our research shows how people want to understand social norms at a time when the context of families and relationships is changing and go on to use these understandings in their negotiations with partners. Seriously, you are right to want to end the relationship.